Pictures from our Wedding day – 28th December 2011 – just a candid preview

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Proverbs 18:22

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.

The time has come for an official announcement. A very special day – the 17th of December 2011 (Tomorrow 11am IST) for Dorthy Florance and I, Sonny Siddhartha Kanchinatham. Please pray that our engagement be the beginning of a lifetime filled with special love and happiness in all of body, spirit and soul – I humbly seek your blessings, love and wishes on this important occasion of my life.

Love and Regards,
Sonny

Update

Thank you all, the engagement was grand and God’s gift couldn’t be anymore satisfying. Love, sid. Please check the ‘engagement pictures’ to be shared on a public domain or check them on my profile Sonny Kanchinatham
The Engagement pics
sidfire.com/photos
Engagement pics, II and III

A montage of travelling experience from down under to the Deccan plateau – Sydney to Hyderabad part 1 (December 2011)

Featuring: Best Friends, Family and love.

Credits:
All images by me. Sidfire Photography 2011 (further note: www.sidfire.com/photos)
Music credits to Artist: Quantic – In the Key of Blue (copyright owners)

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I am easily amused with nostalgia.. That’s something I hadn’t planned to look up on this Sunday night..

This day, I’m certified by Apple ( – arranged by the Organisation I work for). And yes, Thunder’s happy.

Growing up as a child, there was never any doubt in my mind that God existed. Nor was there any doubt that he said he was a loving Father. I knew this as much as I was alive. But knowing these things was far different from actually relating to God. I had no idea what that looked like. To me, the idea of God as Father was a nice Sunday school idea that had little effect on the way I actually lived. God was a compartment in my life that I opened and closed for two hours every Sunday morning. I had reduced God to a safe and impersonal idea that I could keep at a distance. I was a Christian in theory but an atheist in practice. I grew up in fear, terrified of being damned in this burning place called Hell..and knowing God as above would keep me away from it.

I am 26 now, my relationship with God grew into something more than that of above which my little mind back then thought had kept me from burning. Looking back, It has taken me some time to trust that God will not one day walk out of the door of my life. It has taken time to believe that he will never leave me or forsake me.

I am learning that God loves me and gave the life of his Son for me that I might become his. It’s all about belonging to Him the Heavenly Father. This is how I am learning to deal with my earthly issues of Fatherlessness today. And I’m still learning.

In his words at the back of this photo he had written: "They make a Happy Family - "GOD BLESS THIS FAMILY" , - Dad, Mom with Sheila and Sonny. 4th Aug, '91

And to this day, I’m missing him. < — (click to read)

With love.

Sonny.

Abandoned - from a No Standing Zone

Apart from becoming cynical at first and battling ‘Why?’. I am ‘slowly’ coming to realise, everyone goes through that at their own pace. And I am starting to see how I can learn from it all.

I went to church yesterday evening, the Word spoke to me. I could not control myself and could not hold myself being heart-broken..

I tried to compose myself but it was so hard.. I had images replaying again and again bringing back memories of regret I sincerely wished I never had. From hearing the message, I started to feel the wound was so deep and that it had never showed up like this, these moving pictures hurt so bad and the pain couldn’t have been anymore than this – they played in my head, the experience, the conviction and haunting in parallel – was too much to handle. I covered my face with my hands and wept it out, crying like a baby.. I felt lonley just being there – people next to me were complete strangers. I then looked at the word that was spoken:

[ Mark 14:38
38 Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

Micah 7:8
8 Rejoice not over me, O my enemy;

when I fall, I shall rise;

when I sit in darkness,

the Lord will be a light to me.

Proverbs 18:1
Chapter 18

1 Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire;

he breaks out against all sound judgment. ]

-
And then I looked at my notes..

[ Temptation ....a NO STaNding Zone.
A test of your faith not necessarily self-control

Temptation becomes sin if we give in to it. Luke 4 , Proverbs 18:1 temptations come when you are lonely

2. When you have physical weakness , or mentally , in a desert place etc. Never trade the immediate for the important, HIT the Pause button! Before i meet this physical or emotional need...After falling..What will people think about me? - all in the mind (fantasy)

Micah 7:8 !! ]

Desperate and feeling isolated. I reached out to my closest friend –  through a text message ‘bro, I’m broken’ – in came the response immediately -

and asked another mate who happened to be there to come get me, holding onto a tree, clinging to it..like a dead leaf about to fall, but his words watered me down..and he was at the same place, searching for me, finding me, holding me and being there for me all the while comforting, encouraging, praying, listening until I left home for the night.

It is horrible when you feel like it, heart broken, when someone just walks away from your life.  Still counting the days, the ways..  Lord, give me strength to cling onto this life you paid for and freely give, like the leaf that holds onto its tree, and for me onto this Life…

It’s 12:06am Saturday morning. Just sitting in the car in front of a moon lit river, looking out onto the busy waters as I drift along with this heavy mind of mine pressed hard yet floating against these painful currents of memories …and .. drops falling from sleepless eyes….. … Read on:

This piece of writing from a ‘friend’ has touched me with pretty much everything I can relate to right now! Just sharing across….

In our darkest hours, fear tends creep into our hearts and takes root. It convinces us to give up all hope and abandon all thoughts of what used to be. Happiness becomes a thing of the past and our hearts begin to turn cold but not by our own choice. The world as we know it becomes a different place. The love we thought would be ours forever is over. Fate, as it seems, dealt you a bad hand and you are left with the emptiness and sadness that was once filled with the love that was once yours. Was it all a dream? No, you tell yourself, I just wasn’t strong enough for love to stay.

No matter your current situation, things will always get better. Who wants to hear after a breakup that there are other fish in the sea? No one wants to believe that true love is really dead and that there isn’t a hope of reconciliation. The princess and prince of all fairy tales live happily ever after.

-True love never dies-

How many times have you sat and blamed yourself over circumstances beyond your control? Did you ever purposely sabotage your relationship in order to feel the way you do now? I think not. Words cannot express the emptiness a broken heart brings but we have all felt it. We have all felt that hollow in our chests. The world suddenly becomes a cloudy and dismal place. Memories become your solace and your heart aches because the love you had is over. Will they dream of me? Will they ever understand how much I love and need them? If they only knew what it is I feel inside, they would have never stopped loving me. They broken-hearted rational is only there to attempt to convince yourself that they will come back. They loved you once and soon they will realize what they are missing. The reality is that you hope underneath all the fear and tears that they are thinking exactly the way you are.

No one can ever give you advice on how to feel after a breakup. No matter if they have the best intent, only you can feel the way you do. The real question is how long are you going to choose to feel the way you do?

**Read that last part again**

Listen to my words, you have control over you. If you want to get lost and caught up in your own sadness and think you are not worth loving then I hope you can find solace in knowing you are not alone and nor is the world out to prove you’ re the only person in existence that cannot find or feel love in its truest form.

In my opinion, people have forgotten how to interact with one another. We text, email, rely on social networking in order to communicate yet we forgot what it is to be interpersonal. Our coping skills are less than they ever were. Take a pill for your ill instead of coping with the very thing you possibly could control if you just tried. We all want our problems to just go away. No one wants to suffer from heartache any more than they want to suffer from any horrific disease or genetic condition. To learn how to ground yourself is to open your eyes to what it is that living is about. You may have lost love (for now) but you are loved. You have the audacity not to look at what love you do have in order to suffer with the love you don’t. From the day you were conceived, someone has loved you. Chances are, over the years, that love has grown through family and friends. We all have our support systems. Just because we are from different backgrounds, geographical locations, religions and race doesn’t mean we all want what every wants…and that is to be loved and appreciated for who we are.

No one says it’s easy to suffer a broken heart but it gets easier when you put your life into perspective. I know it hurts right now. Remember that just because the day is cloudy doesn’t mean the sun isn’t there. We have to look beyond our boundaries. To deal with grief and heartache is merely a stepping stone in handling what it is to be alive. Sure it hurts for now but like death we will all have to go down the same road someday. You are no different. Life is what you make of it. Use the time you have wisely. No one in the world is to blame but you. If you believe in a higher power, take comfort in knowing God created millions of people for you to learn from. Take the time to love yourself and learn from others. Stop trying to convince yourself that your life is over because someone chose to leave. Chances are you had no say so in their decision but you do have 100% say in what it is YOU do and feel.

There is no magical formula in getting someone to come back. What I can tell you is so simple you probably won’t believe it at first but I know that those that respond to this post can attest. What brings someone back is love. Not the love you have for them now because they left but the love you showed them because you did love them with all your heart. No one on earth can take away true love. Looks fade and people change but truelove has NO boundaries. Even death cannot change what it is to be loved. Take my advice and learn that though these are just words, that I love you all. If I didn’t care, though I am your friend, I wouldn’t continue to post my thoughts to you and lessons I have been blessed to share.

If your heart is broken, I will pray for you. I have been there. I have been on my knees and didn’t know how to get up because the loss of love took the life right out of me. I was given the strength to rise above my heartache. It wasn’t easy but I am proof you can do it. All you have to do is start believing in yourself. No one says you have to stop hoping love will return. You have to make that change in order for someone to WANT to come back. The secret is to do it for you and not for someone else. Why you ask? Because if you change for someone and they leave once again, they take what you changed for in the first place. If you change for you, they can NEVER take that away.

We all need improvement. Love isn’t perfect but it takes practice. Take the focus off of what you don’t have and pace it on what it is you DO have. When you ground yourself, you will start to open your eyes to the bigger picture. To put it into perspective, chances are you will live to see tomorrow regardless if you have a broken heart or not. There are those out in the world who are not worried about a broken heart but are wondering if they will see tomorrow. You will love and live to see another day. You may not see it in front of you but understand that things do not happen because you want them to; you have to make them happen. How is this possible? Plain and simple, you can’t make people love you but you can surely make them NOT love you. To work on your confidence, positive attitude and self-worth are all you need in order to make love find you once again. The key is to understand that love has standards. Love is attracted to confidence, not arrogance. Love is attracted to those that are motivated in attaining a goal but understand where they came from. Love is attracted to those that show compassion rather than empathy. Love is attracted to love. If you don’t love yourself, then love will be deterred.

Putting a band-aid on fixing yourself is like flying a kite in a tornado…it will be very short lived and other will see right through you. Self-improvement takes time. NOT other people’s time but your own. Quit putting a time table on love. If you are still trying to convince yourself that you have to get someone back quickly because someone else is in the shadows, then you have already lost. You are trying to get back a possession rather than love itself. Love is not a possession but a positive feeling between two or more people. If love cannot be reciprocated between BOTH parties, then it will never work. Take the time limitations off of your goal and you will be freed mind, body and soul to deal 100% with you rather than someone else. Lift the burden of changing you in order to be loved by someone else. Ask yourself ONE VERY IMPORTANT question.

**Would they do the same for me?**

If you answer no, then let go and learn from your time together. Close the chapter in order to write a new one. Life is nothing more than a series of lessons. If we don’t learn from those lessons, what have we truly learned? Stand up tall because today is a new day. The sun still shines despite your heart and head trying to convince you otherwise. Just because you can’t see tomorrow doesn’t mean you can’t change it or make it better than today. Learn that every day you choose to grow in a positive direction, even without the one you love, doesn’t mean you are not making progress.

Do they still dream about you? With all that I am, I hope that they do.

Let go of doubt, fear and hopelessness in order to let your light shine through.
I believe in you. It’s about time you believed in yourself.

Your Friend~

These tears dried away unseen,

So many static memories in scream,

The history your life brought to screen.

So many words that not-one mean,

in all these stories of faith, hope, love lessons and mistakes..

–

Mornings of depression getting you down,

Every time the Sun woke in town,

Trying to break this emotional wall you formed..,

it was easy to get carried away in this romance,
to step not and control against a diminishing godly fence,

them emotions strayed in a mess of guilty conscience I lay,

to think Oh this glimmer of hope you brought my way.

yeah, this and I will never feel that love today.

–

 

That’s what I failed to understand,

How could I had taken this like a man.

With all the things you would rather say and do,

When you knew that I was hurting for you.

And all of these things I failed to see,

I got caught up in a lair of mystery,

All I can say this much is true,

That night, I was lost searching for you.

–

 

We had a fever that’s never felt there,

times when I was burning my mind in solitude,

With all the things you would rather want me do,

to be busy when among friends,

and to act normal in ignorance…

It was so much easier watching you through the lens.

–

 

That’s what I failed to understand,

How could I had taken this like a man.

With all the things you would rather say and do ,

When you knew that I was hurting for you.

And all of these things I failed to see,

.. maybe I got caught up in this evil lair of mystery,

..and to say this much is true,

That night, you knew that I was hurting for you,

..and to say this much is true,
you knew that I was waiting for you,

..and to say this much is true,

That night, I was lost searching for you.

 

The tears wiped away now unseen,

So many static memories in scream,

The history your life brought to screen.

So many words that not-one mean,

in all those stories of faith, hope, love lessons and mistakes,

Oh Never a heart that never breaks.

 How are you keeping? Didn’t hear from you yesterday?

In Christ,

 

Unanswered yet the prayer your lips have pleaded

In agony of heart these many years?

Does faith begin to fail? is hope departing?

And think you all in vain those falling tears?

Say not the father hath not heard your prayer;

You shall have your desire sometime, somewhere.

 

Unanswered yet? Nay do not say ungranted;

Perhaps your work is not yet wholly done.

The work began when first your prayer was uttered,

And God will finish what He has begun.

If you will keep the incense burning there,

His glory you shall see sometime, somewhere.

 

Unanswered yet? Faith cannot be unanswered,

Her feet are firmly planted on the Rock;

Amid the wildest storms she stands undaunted,

Nor quails before the loudest thunder shock.

She knows Omnipotence has heard her prayer,

And cries, “It shall be done”-sometime, somewhere.

               

Miss Ophelia G. Browning.

 

 

 

This was a time when… I was amongst my well wishers, in love, in faith and having a good time at a camp outing – somewhere in the beautiful shire of North East New South Wales – where they all broke into a moment of joy with fire that lit woods, moving up towards the moon lit sky that marked its presence so surreal, and I holding my camera and a tripod, took a long exposure shot that gave this moment a recording which you see. A beautiful night, a lovely memory.

Your mind resonates a fall of silence,

to read this may sound mindless,

the cries of letters rhymed out of my wholeness,

and to imagine a meaning with
thoughts of you that are timeless.

I may not be able to bear it in reality
at all,

it’s just hard to blink and breathe to cope and

not fall .

I shall
only dream to hold you from this fall,

a night to wish and pray you stay
beautiful is to God I call.

This mindless man needs to stay away in thoughts
of these,

just mindful of a lil smile is what I ask of

you please.

All these groans and moans I hear,

of a singing love in times with you very
dear ,

of hope and dream falling in place of doubts

and fear

…that once I
was loved too in place of despair, by you.

Oh by you , so true ,

it would only be a lie to run away,

from me and to you.

To look at these dreams of you from afar,
a fountain of flowing water ,
Up above and down below in this picture so beautiful and meant,
To show thoughts of you are ever so iridescent !

Photography to me

Making a living as a photographic “artist” is difficult. My definition of an artist is someone who produces images to please himself, not a client. My ideal photographic job would be where my photographic art is so much in demand that I don’t need to spend any time marketing it, people come to me wanting my work.

The photographic businesses where you are hired to please a client are easier. Weddings, portraiture, commercial photography, etc, however I am aware that with this type of career, your non-photographic business skills are just as important as your photographic skills.

Best way to gain skills and experience without spending on formal Photography education courses is to be involved in a workshop, make friends you can meet and plan, publish (like on my Flickr) and also why not become an informal apprentice working for a professional.

Most professional photographers that I know are not formally educated. They learn by reading, practicing, and from clubs and associations.

Photography to me:

"I like to paint Light to reveal an image out of imagination".
 I like to reflect on and produce my imagination in ways that are creative and pleasing
with every image set to inspire a vivid sense of awe at the beauty of creation
and the wonderful sacredness of life |

check out my pictures - www.flickr.com/photos/sidfire

- sidfire.

Life’s a race from dawn to dusk –  to win is how I wanted to.

This race I am in, on a endless road – left to fate,

With pride and lost faith – cutting the apex in a heavy state.

I fell asleep in this moment’s relapse, griplessness jolting my synapse,

In vain, I spin out  -loosing this race in a moments trail.

- Life has crashed, Oh how I wail-

I am Awake. These thoughts I now hold onto.

Nightmares once on this lonely road- no more waking up to.

Your Love to feel and your Grace to hold me onto,

this  road of faith filled with a clear horizon you drive me through,

Oh no more on my own – these moments that I cherish

- I am Awake in You-

- Peace!

-sid (2011)

More click here: http://sidfire.com/poems

Sidfire Studio - ft. Steel Series Siberia V2 Headset, Acer Firewire, Thunder (Macbook Pro MY'11 series), PS3 +GT5

:-Roll in the edits…

Iridescent

Remembering Love, like I ought to.. for like a friend, it brings peace. Where am I lost? in the place of despair, where my spirit breaks.

Remembering Love, always want to..for like a melody , it brings light. Where am I blinded? in darkness where thoughts exist, where moments drown at times.

For When life leaves us blind, Love keeps us Kind….

love, bliss, peace

-Sonny / Sid / Sidfire

Click – Abstract, macro, plain, classic.. you name it. Me and my new camera (deserves a mention: The Canon Ixus 100 IS ) is stepping into the light.

Sidfire’s iPhone4 Log: {updated: 10/08/2010}

History/Timeline/changelog:

Contd..from (click here for the outright purchase experience here in Sydney)

Unboxed: 30/07/2010

Free Case program;case chosen from apple store: SNAP INCASE – clear (expected shipping date: September)

Apps installed |Use links to redirect to corresponding app’s store in iTunes|

Social/Location-based:
Facebook Facebook – Facebook,
Twitter Twitter – Twitter, Inc.,
Flickr Flickr – Yahoo!,
iLoader iLoader for Facebook – Ky Vu,
MyPhone+ MyPhone+ (Sync with Facebook) – Ultimake Ltd,
foursquare foursquare – foursquare,
OutFront OutFront: all sport GPS computer – perform, analyse & share rides, runs and other outdoor activities – Tinderhouse,
Glympse Glympse – Location Sharing Made Simple – Glympse Inc.,
Trapster Trapster speed trap alerts (now with Caravan and Patrol) – Trapster.com,
Geocaching Intro Geocaching Intro – Groundspeak Inc.,
fring fring – fringland Ltd. .

Spiritual: Olivetree Bible Reader BibleReader – Free – Olive Tree Bible Software, INc,
AskGod Ask God Bible Verses – Snark Software.

Banking: CommBank CommBank – Commonwealth Bank of Australia,
Prop. Guide CommBank Property Guide – RP Data Ltd.

Gmail Web app (+ http://gmail.com from iPhone safari browser)

Reference:
Dictionary! Dictionary! – Catlin Software, LLC,
Wikipanion Wikipanion – Robert Chin.

Utilities: MusicID MusicID – Gravity Mobile .

Movies/showtimes: pktCinema Pocket Cinema – Standing Dog, LLC,
Airvideo Air Video – Watch your videos anywhere! – InMethod s.r.o.,

Gaming:
Angry BirdsAngry Birds – Clickgamer.com,
Real Racing GTI Real Racing GTI – Firemint
FS5 Air Hockey Touch Hockey: FS5 (FREE) – FlipSide5, Inc.,
iBall 3D iBall3D – StoneTrip,
MazeFinger+ MazeFinger Plus – ngmoco, Inc.,
iGunLite iGun Pro LITE – The Original Gun Application – Crimson Moon Entertainment LLC,
FingerPiano FingerPiano – Junpei Wada .

Misc.: iBooks iBooks – Apple Inc.,
IMDb IMDb Movies & TV – IMDb,
XE Currency XE Currency – XE.com Inc.,
Aljazeera English Live newsAl Jazeera English Live – Livestation,
WordPress WordPress – Automattic,
See This! You Gotta See This! – Boinx Software ,
ForzaTune ForzaTune – FlameFront Studios .

Paid Subscriptions: MobileMe service / find my phone feature to locate lost iphone.($120/year – me.com/find)

Jailbreak Status

Jailbroken status: Yes (click here for how-to in 5 minutes!)

Reason for Jailbreaking: Feature enhancements: [Custom SBSsettings, SMS app, SSH access]

Installed apps via Cydia: SBSettings, Remove recents, BiteSMS, Rename, ABGrouper,

Tips/Suggestions:

Current Settings:

Suggestions for Battery life:
1. Turn of Wifi when not needed
2. Brightness setting to around 20-30% with Auto bright.
3. Activate Potrait lock setting
4. Turn of Mail accounts including push notification features (exception: MobileMe account’s ‘find me’ feature)
5. Be sure to remove/uninstall OpenSSH app from Cydia after using it.
- my average battery life when in moderate to above average use: 12-16hours! *

*subject to further test conditions.

Other Jailbreak (purpose) tips:

1.Use Open SSH to change BiteSMS logo and Renamer app to change any app icon name
2. Use SBSsettings app from hide unwanted apps from HomeScreen.

[To be updated...]

Contd..from (click here for the outright purchase experience here in Sydney)

I was the 17th in queue at the Apple Store launch day in Sydney

My first Apple experience. Read on..

Ok, got the new iphone4. one word; Fantastic! and got to work in time and oh wait: Here’s coming my iPhone/iOS4 journal for your own benefit huzaaar! >>| Sidfire’s iPhone 4 log

mind you the above journal is constantly being updated as we read!.

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 "Bro, its just that it feels like I have been failing all my life.

“The lessons we learn from our failures
Are lessons that help us succeed,
And if we are wise and we heed them,
Then failure is just what we need. —D. De Haan

What Does It Take To Perform The “Waldstein” Piano Sonata??

The “Waldstein” is one of the masterpieces among Beethoven’s Sonatas and in the piano repertoire in general.

a few things about the challenges of performing this piece:

“This is a work that is intended for the accomplished pianist and musician. It requires, overall a complete mastery of the piano, and a high level of musicianship, and a comprehensive knowledge of Beethoven’s music and style. In order to analyze and attempt to explain this music in detail requires a very long essay if not a whole book.”
- Alexander Panku (performing Ludwig van Beethoven’, Sonata op. 53 in C major “Waldstein.)

The jaw dropping Ku-ring-gai / Newport trip- click here for more detail!

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Life and Fatherlessness -Why Fathers Matter.

A little bit of personal and vastly theoretical perspective about father involvement and its potentially positive consequences for child development

“Fathers should neither be seen nor heard and that is the only proper basis for family life” Oscar Wilde had once written. But over the years the world has time and again tested this proposition drawing on a wide range of social science evidence only to realise its not all true. In view of the module:

Influences on Development (WK 2), this article reviews the absence of fatherhood and its consequences brought about in many different ways. I shall also opine personally in view of being fatherless / losing my father to death as a young boy aged 7 years old, placing myself on the ecological model derived by Bronfenbrenner (1979, 1986) and also relate to the significant influences of being fatherless throughout the course of my teenage years.

Bronfenbrenner’s model of the ecology of human development acknowledges that humans don’t develop in isolation, but in relation to their family and home, school, community and society. According to him, each of these ever-changing and multilevel environments, as well as interactions among these environments, are key to development and I strongly agree as I see the idea of Fathers as the protectors, the providers, the role models of both sons and relationship-models of daughters.

Consequences of fatherlessness include a highly likely case of being exposed to emotional, physical, behavioural problems than those of intact families. The absence or loss of a father in studies conducted over the years has yielded extraordinary negative outcomes. I shall put forth some of these key factors below.

Economic loss

One of the immediate consequences of fatherlessness is loss of economic resources. The child comes to rely on mother’s earnings who earns less than the father in general. There are studies on child poverty with loss of father’s income being stated as one of the many profound reasons.

(Garfinel & McLanahan, 1986)

Life in a single-parent family

Disadvantages in terms of social and behavioral factors have come under extensive research over the years concluding children who grow up with a single parent being the mother are three times

more likely to become wedlock and teen mothers, to drop out of school and two times more likely to be completely idle (McLanahan & Sandefur). Another research ( Maccoby & Jacklin, 1974) concludes that the absence of father is a major mental health risk factor for children. Living in a single-parent family certainly has a negative impact on a child’s upbringing. The child is apt to have more problems involving emotional, behavioral and physical problems and the research studies as mentioned above do not say otherwise.

Children of divorce

Today, there is a lot of evidence on the negative outcomes of divorce-effect children. The effects of divorce and living in a single-parent family as described above are very closely intertwined indeed. (Durkheim & Simpson, 1952). Much damage is caused by fatherlessness and this is fair to add as suggested by the research.

Losing a father through death

According to David Popenoe in his book “Life without father”, the consequence of losing a father through death is totally different to that of losing a father through divorce. The dead father is sometimes a more effective father than the one who is missing – this is where my understanding has shifted to over the years. In all forms of positivity, I carry an idealized image of my my father which might be quite the opposite to the case of resentment, conflict and guilt found in children who lost their fathers to either separation or divorce.

Applying Bronfenbrenner’s Ecological Theory:

The dynamics of fathers’ specific influence can be formulated in two ways. Firstly, fathers function

as microsystem partners with whom children can experience good core developmental interactions. The more microsystem partners the child has with whom he/she has good core developmental interactions, the better it is for the child’s development-as long as the child is not

”overloaded” cognitively or socio emotionally, and the child’s microsystem partners are not in conflict with each other (i.e., the child’s mesosystem relationships are good). In this first approach,

fathers are viewed simply as important additional microsystem partners for the children, but not necessarily as distinctive or unique ones.

The second view is that fathers are a unique kind of micro system partner. Because fathers’ personalities differ from mothers’, children’s proximal process interactions with fathers differ those with mothers in ways that are potentially important for development. Parke, R. D. (2002)

Concluding:

Fathers are more than just another adult at home. Responsible fathers bring forth positive outcomes to their children unlike any other person. Their style of parenting significantly varies from that of mothers and as discussed above as per evidence and cited research studies. Fathers make important contributions to intellectual, social, emotional, and psychological well-being of their children. It is equally intriguing to understand the psychological maturity or shifting of my own understanding of losing a father to death versus losing a father to divorce or similar factors.

Reflection in modern society and education

Today, the need for fathers to love and care for their children has become increasingly greater. It is important to understand that children must be highly educated in order to succeed socially and Psychologically and to do so, strong attachments with fathers who love them is essential. There certainly exists a future window of hope with continued research on fatherhood with its results leveraged in ongoing government reforms to support a better fatherhood society and local communities alike with this sort of knowledge. After all, this reflection might ensure future fathers don’t succumb to modern trends instead enlighten parenthood in light of its true historical significance. I look forward to this as I now understand fatherhood and marriage are indeed indespensable for the good of my future children and society.

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to be updated soon..

Now Playing: This Month’s Song , copyright of sidfire.com

Refresh – written by Sid in 2006. (*sorry about the quality, initially recorded in available ‘.amr’ format on a mobile device of those times)
Song on: Eternal perspective (significance of faith, hope and love)

vocals : Nahum and Sid
Keyboard : Nahum (UK)
Scratch: Sid

Play:

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Lines:

Opening*
NAHUM: I gotta keep goin coz my heart will not go wrong,
I gotta keep from falling coz i know i will remain strong,
And if i reach the END…
…I know that i will be Refreshed!
Yeah (echo)..I will be refreshed!
SID: ..it beats in every heart….;
my energy for the thought .
..its like an agressive storm,
like a blanket keeping you warm…
[ -*nahum: I gotta keep goin coz my heart will not go wrong*-]
SID: Its so steady like a river,
like a sickness, a fever…..
[nahum: I gotta keep from falling coz i know i will remain strong]
SID:Its TOXIC like at Once..
that may last in IGNORANCE *ECHO* ignorance
Nahum: And if i dont reach the end… [riff-raff]
*NAHUM–RAP*
SID:Its both heaven and hell…
is what you may tell.
n middle of hurting and healing…
Its everything…x2
*NAHUM-RAP-

A Quick Recap!

Visualize our recent trip to the south east coast of NSW covering Seacliff, Stanwell park, Wollongong and many more.. as seen below this live geo-tag based tracking was done with the help of the Nokia N82 gps phone and Nokia Vine software for s60 3rd edition:-) ..enjoy!

click here: www.sidfire.com/the-trip-15012009

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Click above Image for the 2009 Exquisite SlideShow!
Happy New Year !

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Presenting GPS based Location tracking and trip mapping - detailed review of the recent Stockton/ Anna Bay trip and more!

-Check out the video log ‘New vids/’ released !

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Also  : What’s my stand on Stem cell research today? coming soon!

update: read here www.sidfire.com/stemcells
18/09: Check out the Malaysia trip photos below:

Part 1,

Part 2.

and more below 

The Stockton Anna Bay phenomenon – Trip

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Aftermath of a non stop 10km walk exploring the cityscape , the scorching heat took its toll - with a bottle of ice tea from a gas station refuge mansion, a pack of sweat tissues, shopping bags and a 8gb n82 , the ‘malay’dious sign boards came to life.. “here we go..

Selamat Datang – Welcome to KL from Sunny Kanchin on Vimeo..”

before:: deadstop on the bench.

after :: 80KMPH zappin it out

here ya go..

Alone? just bored and random mobile video edit. from Sunny Kanchin on Vimeo.
- a video by Sid.

Music by Disciple:Alone

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Here comes – June , get ready for some Hot fun.. stay in tune.

and theres more.. head on over to the photo blog down below this site page
Have fun everybody!
And do check out the new updated Poems page: http://sidfire.com/my-poems

And check out the new fun video i made

I had the opportunity to be part of a History making night here @ Acer Arena today!
Take note of the preview sample videos and pics i have captured with my N82

..more about the Night soon,
Watch out!

“The same power that conquered the grave Lives in Me! Lives in Me!!”

“The same power that rescued the earth Lives in Me! Lives in Me!!”

Cant wait for the upcoming new album!

Hi, everybody..
Updates are coming and are coming in grand style.. as the site take one step closer to opening a saga of adventures experienced by me.. here’s a video to compliment how grand its gonna open up.. like this lil bridge across Darling harbor, Sydney.. called the Pyrmont Bridge
Have a Look:

and part 2:

Hello everybody!

 Well this would be my first post on here. Lets talk about it, well if you already didn’t know I am Sid at play and Sonny at work –  also known as sidfire, sidz, siddles, Mr.Kanchin, sunmeister, sundawgz really.
Nice to see ya here

..and what’s this sidfire.com all about? well , its me, my thoughts, my web .. thats about it.

Hope you will find the weblogs interesting over time. And be sure to check out the other pages ,
i have got my stuff in some of them worth checkin’ out.

and watch out for the next log.

-Woah, its the weekend and so be it , after a pretty busy week after work. . .
been raining in sydney all day..well almost , until in the evening when i decided to take a walk

There ya go… i hope you do enjoy your weekend too. While i am musing heavily at how
glorious a site could get in this big blogosphere universe …ha! just a thought again.
Well, with time , everything will pass, so you will you – as my eminent reader!

c’ya ! and yeah – watch out for more updates on the way!

web 2.0

check out the weblog

more updates to follow..

Now getting serious,This is a poem i like to share with ya’l…I written it when out of High School a few years back….. its more of a cause for living it out bright..which is always worth a try

Trying on….

 

 

*****

I sit here, I think / Wondering how my life passed by… ,

Life for me half-way through my last eye blink

Wondering what will i be before i die.

I try keep thinkin while sitting so,

and Rhyme my past from what i know,

But never out of mind are thoughts of Why?

that whirls into making me feel all blind…

Never could i know how can i try?

-making me feel all negative in mind.

*****

I so then keep moving all around,

bein poetic (?) but more polluted that I sound..

As i try to keep blinking admist blind pain,

Knowing not-until its forever dark again

*****

Trying on…

Comes up from the core my dad’s face, whos soul rests ever so without any trace, leaving me behind with tears hard to erase, sometimes i feel like i am destined with fate, the word i always feel better left to suit the dead. I am grieving with fate for what i am living is unknown, only to remember my dad is like in a missing ocean i drown. I miss you dad, i forever love you for whatever memories of you i have, you are everything thats dear to me.. i wish your soul hears this .. with peace that forever exists – I am yet to find the way of life in which you had bliss.

Trying on..

 

*****

Trying on…

Guessing i am still young,

for you to sense my emotion,

but better you be trying to understand this thing, than make it sound just anther senseless illusion…,

Pals all around just dont seem to suffer,

like mine that sounds more like a muffler,

This is what i think so..

sometimes trying on

to make them feel the acidity of my mindflow,

while i try to buff up neutrality in enemies i make…

only to be wished for that I am dead.

Trying on…

*****

 

Trying on..

What should i try to do now,

admist my thoughts of how i am pissed.

Since all i did living doesnt seem right and even,

dreaming on..for God who says- take this for Sins!

 

Trying on….

Like what should i try to do in need…,

when i feel wounded and begin to bleed,

trying more to heal through time i proceed.

i did what i did when life was given,

doin nothing for the future but dreaming and believing…,

that i would be better cloned an alien,

else what? live like this-not knowing until when Again?

Trying on….

With something more to me in heart,

stepping in through door of love, I (never tried) shut.

Crept up feelings would forever sense real,

until its broken- confusing how its gonna heal!.

Thats how love pushed me away, ending me down through any thoughts of bliss.

Thats how love to me is everyday, ending me up with ****** up poems like this.

Still trying on…

*****

Still Trying on..

I need a shoulder to cry on,

and have my tears dry up along these tones,

better still ending up into the grave of the bygones,

Ending it all with my ever-trying bones.

 

 

 

*end of*

 

11 years since. Today this has changed